my feelers are hurt!

So today started awesome Walked around Westport Or and went to the creek and took some pics had a blast my sister in-law is up for a visit love her to pieces then we came home and ate some food and my daughter wanted me to paint her nails so i got one hand done then she wouldn't let me take her other hand thought it was a game so i played it for a little while then got serious and asked her if she could give me her hand so i lifted it up and put it on my lap and she started crying so i put the fingernail polish away with an unpainted hand and she pouted and went to her room all on her own so I went to lay on the floor in front of the fan cause it is hot in here and she came up and KICKED ME IN THE ARM!!! I was so pissed so i gave her a light tap on the but and sent her to her room and took all her toys away! i don't know what to do anymore she throws fits all the time now and they are bad and I just don't know what to do anymore!! can anyone help me I am at a lose here!